It is the highest form of virtue––charity––to accept others "just as they are." It is the lowest form of virtue––self-righteousness––to accept oneself "just as I am." The former grants a space of freedom and light in which the other person might be relaxed enough not to fall for self-righteousness. The latter grants oneself enough vacuous self-confidence that they only become the greatest challenge for others in showing charity.
–– Elliam Fakespeare